It was a systemic-family arrangement.
The client is a 14-year-old teenage girl who has a hard time living with her parents, especially her father.
Her parents are divorced, she lives mostly at her father’s house, but her relationship with him is getting worse.
Without going into details, while the father felt he had to control everything, especially his daughter’s life, he felt he had to do it for both mother and himself, he tried very hard. The girl felt this as a lot of pressure and wanted to run away from the circle all the time, and her mother had her back to them, too.
I asked father what he lacked, why he was controlling? He answered that he had once lost his power himself, and now he was afraid for his daughter. I suggested that he find his own power. It was a huge sword. When he picked it up, the whole arrangement changed.
He felt strong, he remembered how powerful he was, he remembered his dreams and accomplishments, he began to look forward. His daughter relaxed; she felt good to be around father. He said that now he would be busy with his exploits and his strength, he would support her in any situation and would no longer control her. Then the mother turned to both of them and began to hug her daughter, as if she had not had the opportunity to give her love before.
The daughter felt the love and presence of both parents, the freedom and even saw the shining path of her future.
I think it’s about the mother and father having special roles, and when the father becomes the mother and vice versa, the flow of energy, love, and life is disrupted.
The father is about strength and exploits, action and movement, and his task is to demonstrate this to his children. The mother is about warmth, care, love and acceptance.